While Dustin is busy having father-daughter time with his four-year-old, Amy, the little girl suddenly takes off when she sees a man who’s a stranger to Dustin. But as he watches his daughter with the stranger, it becomes clear that she knows him. Things only get stranger when his wife’s reaction to the man is dropping a bottle of milk to the ground.
The grocery store was bustling with the usual weekend crowd, aisles teeming with shoppers and carts filled to the brim. We all seemed to have the same idea — grocery shopping with our children in tow.
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My daughter, Amy, four years old and bouncing with energy, was my little sidekick for the day.
Before we left, Andrea, my wife, had given me a detailed shopping list.
The morning had begun with Andrea making coffee for me and matcha for herself.
Amy was still asleep, and we were lying in bed with our drinks, deciding how to spend the day.
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After going back and forth about skipping her class, Andrea decided to shower and go. By the time she was ready, Amy was awake and ready for breakfast.
Amy reached out and held her arms up for me to pick her up. Usually, she was Andrea’s shadow, but when it came to the early mornings and the late nights, she was all mine.
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“I’ll meet you just after my class,” she said, kissing me and then Amy on the head. “We can grab brunch after that.”
“Sure, honey,” I said, slicing up a banana for Amy.
I got Amy ready shortly after and we got into the car and were on our way.
My daughter was so excited for her morning with me, that it was infectious. I wanted to spoil her today.
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Andrea was supposed to meet us at the supermarket after her morning yoga class, something that she never missed. But instead of making my way through the list properly, my phone was out, and I was taking candid photos of Amy’s antics.
I loved being a dad to a little girl. Amy brought out a softness in me that I didn’t know I had. And I cherished every moment with her.
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As I focused on capturing my daughter’s twirls and her getting distracted by every other chocolate item, Amy spotted a little dog sitting in someone’s cart, and she took off running down the aisle.
I left the cart behind and ran behind her, but before I could call her name, she leaped into the arms of a man browsing the cereal aisle.
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The stranger caught her instinctively, and they shared a smile before his eyes dashed around to find mine. The man looked at me, surprised.
As if he hadn’t expected to be caught up in this moment. His face drained color and he gingerly put Amy down on the ground again.
I hurried over to them — unsure of what to think. Maybe my daughter just thought that the man looked familiar. If that was the case, then I was right to be embarrassed.
But if there was more to the story, then I had no idea where to begin dealing with my thoughts. But I could see how happy my child was.
“Hey, I’m sorry,” I said as I reached them, still trying to catch my breath from sprinting across the aisles.
“My daughter must have mistaken you for someone else. Come along, Amy, Mom gave us a pretty long list to work through.”
But my daughter clung to the man’s legs, beaming at him.
“I’m not making a mistake,” she said, carefully enunciating the words. “This is Jesse, and he comes to visit us when you’re at work.”
That was what I had been afraid of when I first saw my daughter run into the man’s arms.
And, it wasn’t that I didn’t trust Andrea — of course, I did. But I also knew that I hadn’t been as present recently. Constantly running off to the office whenever I was needed.
Did I push my wife into someone else’s arms?
The man awkwardly tried to unhook Amy’s arms from around his legs, while scrambling for words.
“Look, Amy is making it sound way worse than it is,” Jesse said.
At that moment, a crash echoed down the aisle.
Andrea stood there, dressed in her yoga outfit, frozen. A broken bottle of milk lay at her feet.
“Honey,” she said, looking directly at me. “Let me explain this to you.”
But I could barely hear her over the sound of my own heart thudding in my ears.
In that instance, everything felt wrong. My marriage, my wife’s pleading eyes, and the joy that was plastered onto my daughter’s face when she saw the man.
I covered my head with my hands, in an attempt to make the world stop spinning.
“Come here,” my wife said, taking my hands in her own.
And then she explained a story that I never expected to hear.
It turned out that Jesse was not some secret lover — which is exactly what my brain wanted me to believe. But instead, he was Andrea’s brother, a fact that had completely blindsided me.
My wife had been raised in a foster home with Jesse for a large part of their childhood, before they both got adopted and went their own ways, not keeping in contact with each other following that.
“Jesse was my support, and my only link to hope,” Andrea said, squeezing herself closer to me as a shopper pushed their cart past her.
“Our foster parents were not unkind, but they had unkind moments. Jesse once pulled a piece of glass out of my palm because our foster father threw a plate against a wall.”
She went on to tell me how Jesse had cleaned up her wound and put on a band-aid.
“We were the closest to family that we had ever known,” she said.
I knew that my wife had been adopted — it had come out early in our relationship when Andrea shared it while we were walking along the beach one day.
“I don’t feel anything other than grateful for my parents,” she said. “But I’m just telling you that I was adopted and if we decide to have children, I don’t know my family history in that sense.”
I loved her more for being so open and honest.
“Jesse reached out to me a few months ago. He found me on Facebook and sent me a message.”
My wife shifted her weight from foot to foot. She was nervous, it was clear.
“Jesse wasn’t in the best place back when he contacted me, so I needed to see if he was worth it. Before bringing him into our lives properly, Dustin,” she said.
I looked at my wife; she looked nervous about my reaction. It was as if she didn’t know if I was going to understand her truth, or if I was going to lose my mind and shout at her for not telling me the truth.
She reached out and held tightly onto my hand.
“Jesse has been coming over to spend time with Amy and I. It’s just been a few times, but I’ve wanted Amy to know about her uncle. Jesse was everything to me growing up, so I wanted him to be there for her, too.”
Andrea’s words began to sink in, diffusing the tension that had knotted inside me.
But while the relief that washed over me was everything, it was mingled with a bit of foolishness for having jumped to conclusions. Looking at Jesse, now not a stranger but instead a newly revealed family member who was entertaining my daughter in an elaborate game of I-spy.
I walked up to Jesse and extended my hand to him.
“Welcome to the family,” I said. “I guess we have a lot to catch up on.”
Andrea smiled, visibly relieved.
“Should we do brunch together now?” Andrea asked. “There’s the coffee shop next door? You guys can get to know each other, too.”
“Yes, please!” Amy said. “I want a milkshake! And some ice cream! And fries!”
My wife reached across and hugged Amy from behind. I knew that she wanted me to say yes. She wanted to include me in her life before meeting me. And I wanted that too.
Through Jesse’s eyes, I would get to know about my wife and how her childhood shaped who she is now — and how it helped shape her as a mother.
It was everything to me.
But if I’m being honest, while I understood her need to assess the situation with Jesse, I couldn’t understand why she had introduced him to Amy before me.
Although that wasn’t a fight we needed to have now, we still needed to discuss this in our own time.
“Sure,” I said. “Let’s finish our shopping and then get right to it.”
After we paid and stocked everything in the trunk, we went over to the coffee shop to have our first meal together as a family.
Andrea took my hand and squeezed it tightly.
“Thank you,” she whispered to me.
What would you have done?